Breaking the Overeating Cycle

A food craving can be a pointer indicating there is something in your lives that needs attention. There are various emotional issues hiding beneath food cravings. Stress, fear, anger, insecurity, or frustration are a few of the possible causes. A craving may also be an attempt to fulfill an unmet need such as fun, comfort, and/or love.

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Understanding Adrenal Fatigue, aka “Tired but Wired”

Did you know that two tiny glands, no bigger than a grape are responsible for your energy levels, your endurance, and your vitality? You cannot live without your adrenal hormones and how well you live depends a great deal on how well your adrenal glands function.

Adrenals and Weight: Stress has detrimental effects on the body regardless of the source; emotions, inflammation, infection, worry, anxiety, food allergies, poor diet. The body responds the same.

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The Overeating Cycle

Cravings can become an addiction connected to being in survival mode.

The key step with emotional eating is the compulsive craving or desire. During a craving, you obsess over an object of desire (ice cream, chocolate, chips, a donut) to the point of over-valuing the object of desire.   Then when attained, it will fall short of the illusion you created in your mind, which justified the craving. The craving usually provides more of a pay-off than the act itself. The biggest hit comes from the craving, imagining the pleasure, and planning the act.

It starts with a trigger, resulting in negative thoughts and/or a negative emotional state like fear, anger, shame, insecurity, anxiety. This trigger sends you into your addictive pattern. A craving surfaces as an attempt to escape the negative emotion. You will crave a specific type of food based on the negative emotion you are feeling.

The craving gets exaggerated in your head. It becomes an illusion, a fantasy. You build it up so much in your head, your brain interprets it as a survival need. While the craving is being intensified in your brain, you go further into survival mode. The brain releases cortisol, adrenaline, dopamine, and endorphins. The dopamine and endorphins are rewarding to the brain. They create pleasure, desire, and good feelings. So the brain is getting a pay-off from being put in survival mode.

Then you finally indulge in the craving, you overeat or binge. You are temporarily relieved from the emotional state, and then you are let down. The food, for a minute, serves to give you a dopamine lift and dampen the stress response.

Although, that doesn’t last long. The food didn’t solve the problem you were having. You then feel shame, guilt, and regret for giving in once again. Now you are experiencing more negative emotion, and therefore again going into survival mode.

So in this scenario you swung back and forth between imbalanced states, from fantasy and excitement to shame and regret. The brain is accustomed to these states and becomes addicted to the ups and downs of being in survival.

Part 2 – Breaking the Overeating Cycle


The Archetypes of Cravings (part 2)

 Part 2 of the Archetypes of Cravings…

Are you single and craving a romantic relationship?

Are you burning the candle at both ends and lacking downtime and relaxation?

Do you feel unsatisfied with your career and/or life?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you may relate to one or more of the craving archetypes below.

CHOCOLATE: Rebecca The Romantic A romantic is an idealist who’s beliefs and attitudes center around love. They are characterized by a preoccupation with love and/or by the idealizing of love. Their ideas and hopes may not be realistic. Romantics are usually sensitive and affectionate. They feel deeply and attach a lot of meaning and significance to those feelings.

Emotional Significance of Chocolate:

  • Craving for love, intimacy, and/or romance.
  • A need for calm.
  • To lift one’s mood, a “feel-good” boost.
  • Looking for energy, passion, and/or excitement.
  • To avoid feeling sadness and grief.

Romantics reach for something chocolate when the romance and excitement of love is missing.

SALTY: Frank The Farmer – A farmer is a person who cultivates the soil as a way of life.

Emotional Significance of Salty:

  • A desire for grounding, stability, and/or security.
  • A lack of flow and/or trust in our lives.
  • A need for down time and relaxation.
  • A craving for more movement.
  • Unable to release emotions and/or holding onto emotions.
  • Stress relief.
  • Desire to replenish what’s been lost.

The Farmer may crave salty food when they need to feel more grounded and less stressed.

FATTY/FRIED: Gabby The Gossip – The gossip is associated with passing along unconfirmed information about others that may be exaggerations.

Emotional Significance of Fatty Foods:

  • Fills the emptiness when feeling unsatisfied and/or unfulfilled.
  • Yearning for the richness of life.
  • A lack of inspiration in life.
  • Lacking self-esteem and/or self-worth.
  • Attempting to feel important.
  • Desire to heal, old emotional wounds.

The Gossip eats fatty foods trying to find richness in their life. If they don’t feel they are important or worthy, they might fill up their emptiness with fatty foods.

SPICY: Dante The Daredevil Daredevils are dashing heroes that perform feats of acrobatics. They are reckless and enjoy engaging in dangerous activities. Daredevils are thrill-seekers and adventurers.

Emotional Significance of Spicy:

  • A craving and drive for intensity and excitement.
  • Searching for passion.
  • Response to boredom.
  • Wanting more adventure.
  • Need to “spice up” our life.

Daredevils may crave spicy foods when needing adventure, excitement, and passion in their lives.

By taking a deeper look into your cravings, the emotional issues can be revealed and healed. Discovering the emotional needs behind a food craving is a key step in breaking the pattern and finding a healthier way to satisfy the need.


The Archetypes of Cravings (part 1)

Your food cravings are messages from your body letting you know something needs attention.  It may be giving you a clue about an unmet need.  You may be using certain foods to avoid or escape pain.  Food may be an attempt to manage emotional stress.

There are emotional significances to your cravings.  Perhaps you turn to food because…

  • you are missing support and connection from others.
  • you have a hard time making time for yourself.
  • you live a go-go-go, do-do-do lifestyle and feel overly stressed.

Read through the 4 craving archetypes below to further explore why you crave what you crave.

DAIRY: Millie The Mother Mother’s love is unconditional. She is nurturing, nourishing, and caring. She is the symbol of life-giving. A mother is devoted and protective of her children.

Emotional Significance of Dairy:

  • A craving for comfort.
  • A yearning for being nurtured.
  • Needing soothing.
  • Looking for safety and security.
  • To ease worry and anxiety.
  • Desire for life to be a little easier.

The Mother may crave dairy when they are in need of nurturing, compassion, and comfort. Mothers need nurturing as well.

BREAD/CARBS: Felicity The Friend and Companion A friend is loyal, supportive, and comforting. They offer encouragement, companionship, and   love. They nourish our lives. Friends add richness and a depth to our lives that one cannot achieve on their own.

Emotional Significance of Bread:

  • An attempt to soothe tension, stress, and/or anxiety.
  • Wanting to fill an inner emptiness.
  • Looking for calm and comfort; reassurance.
  • A desire to slow down.
  • Calming and relaxing.

One will attempt to fulfill a need for friendship and companionship with bread. A craving for bread may emerge when one is missing the encouragement, support, and assurance a friend would provide.

SWEETS: Donna The Dreamer – Dreamers live in a world of imagination, ideas, and concepts that are beyond the ordinary mind. They spend a great deal of time in their heads and imagination. Many dreamers are introverted and very independent.

Emotional Significance of Sweets:

  • A craving for sweetness in life.
  • A lack of joy in life.
  • A lack of self-care and “me” time.
  • Wanting a reward, seeking pleasure.
  • Unable to process sadness and grief.
  • Needing a boost of energy.
  • Don’t feel “sweet” enough.

Dreamers crave sweets when they think their dreams may not become a reality. They may have big dreams and wishes for what they want their lives to look like. They reach for sweets when they are missing the joy, pleasure, and sweetness that are only in their imaginations.

CRUNCHY: Charles The Critic A critic is a person who expresses an unfavorable opinion of something; a person who judges, evaluates, and/or criticizes.

Emotional Significance of Crunchy/Crispy:

  • An attempt to relieve anger, irritation, anxiety, and frustration.
  • Holding back something we want to express; resentment, anger, regret
  • A need to hide and avoid conflict.
  • Stress relief.
  • Impatience and/or dissatisfaction.
  • Criticism – of self, from others, and/or towards others.

The Critic goes for crunchy foods to relieve their frustration, anger, and anxiety.

Which craving archetype do you relate to?

I will cover 4 more in my next blog (chocolate, salty, fatty, spicy).  Stay Tuned!



Struggling with food and weight is a doorway to wholeness

Our struggle with weight and emotional eating is rooted in our emotional body and belief systems. Extra physical weight shows up as a result of stuck emotions, negative beliefs, and stress. Weight is a symptom of a disturbance in our energy system.

Holding onto unwanted weight indicates there are stuck negative emotions and beliefs operating in us. We manifest the extra weight and use food to serve a purpose subconsciously.

Emotional eating is a coping mechanism used to distract or numb oneself from life, because in that moment, life doesn’t feel so good. It is an attempt to use food as a means to fulfill an unmet need or to escape from an uncomfortable feeling that arises. We eat in response to the energetic disturbance caused by suppressed emotional pain and self-defeating beliefs.

Our struggle with weight and our relationship with food is a message guiding us to take a look within ourselves. It is a calling to explore the parts of our souls and hearts that need healing. It is an invitation to uncover the emotional and mental pain that is not serving our highest good.

Losing weight and achieving a healthy relationship with food requires a journey and willingness to dig deep into our emotions and beliefs systems. When the energy and emotional body is cleared and cleaned up, the body will let go of the physical weight and a peaceful relationship with food will emerge.

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Eating Awareness

To make positive changes around food, it is important we first discover who we are as eaters. By becoming the observer of ourselves, we can gain valuable insights about our eating habits and choices.

There are no right or wrong answers to these questions. This is meant for your own self-discovery.

Let’s first look at Food Mentality.  Explore the following questions.

  • Is food a guilty pleasure for you?
  • What does food represent to you? (love, comfort, reward, the enemy, fuel, pleasure….)?
  • Is there a lot of “should-ing” and “should not-ing” about food?
  • Were there rules in your family growing up about food?
  • What role did food play in your family growing up?
  • What rules do you have around food now?
  • Do you avoid a list of forbidden foods?
  • How often do you think and/or stress about food and your weight?

Awareness and acknowledgement are the first steps in healing our relationship with food.

Our relationship with food can offer amazing opportunities for transformation and grLight Bulb in Appleowth.  Instead of fighting it and making yourself wrong, can you see the lessons and gifts being offered to you?  What could they be? How may your relationship with food be a mirror of your relationship with life?