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#027 Hungry for Happiness with Sam Skelly

 

“You cannot heal something you hate” 
“Dieting and binge eating is rooted in fear.”
“Suppressed anger is one of the main reasons you are using food as a drug.” 
“You have to decide you are worth it.”
These are just a few of the powerful truth bombs today’s guest shares in her book.  There are many more.  I highly suggest you listen to this episode, giving it your fullest presence…and read her book.
In this episode of IMperfectly Healthy, I interview Samantha Skelly – an entrepreneur, motivational speaker, best-selling author, and emotional eating expert who has revolutionized the weight loss industry by examining the individual and underlying causes of eating disorders. She has shared her mission on an international platform and continues to spread her message and transform the lives of thousands of people through the Phoenix Formula, motivational speaking engagements, the Hungry for Happiness podcast, worldwide international retreats, and her Amazon best-selling book, Hungry for Happiness: One Woman’s Guide From Fighting Food to Finding Freedom.
Hungry for Happiness is a movement of women dedicated to ending the fight with food and their bodies by addressing the underlying causes of emotional eating. When we heal our connection to our bodies and reestablish trust in ourselves, we realize our problems really have very little to do with food.
In this episode, you are going to hear Sam and I chat about:
  • her path to finding freedom from weight loss obsession, body shame, the diet/binge cycle, over-exercising and clean eating 
  • the internal issues causing your struggle with your body.
  • how every choice you make is either self-loving or self-violent.
  • why suffering is a learned behavior.
  • the power of observation.
  • how your life is a reflection of your beliefs.
  • why you need to be willing to be in the process of transformation and healing, AND allow it to be messy.
  • how to let go of dieting and still honor your health.
  • how your identity is keeping you stuck.
  • why it is ok to not like your body.
  • why self-honesty is a KEY to transformation.
  • what self-acceptance truly is.
  • how to create self-trust.
Learn more about Sam at Hungry for Happiness.
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#023 What Women Need to Know about Men with Josh Trent

 

I am SO excited about this episode.  It is a topic I have been wanting to cover for a while.  It is also an aspect of health and wholeness that I LOVE to talk about. Today we are talking about dating, relationships, communication and attraction,  from the perspective of a MAN….which is key.  We are also taking a look at the ways men struggle with body image and weight.

The man who courageously stepped up to the plate for this conversation, is my dear friend,  Josh Trent. Josh is the founder of Wellness Force, and a wellness industry influencer and coach.  He is also a top ranked iTunes podcast host of both Wellness Force Radio and the Fitness + Technology podcasts.

With over 13 years in the health and wellness industry, he leads the Wellness Force community in discovering physical and emotional intelligence to help men and women live life well.

His vision for Wellness Force is to empower over one million men and women in discovering the physical and emotional intelligence we need to live life well and enjoy the process. A KEY to enjoying that process is our relationships.  Josh and I love chatting about this topic together as friends, so here we are! =) 

In this episode, you are going to hear Josh share:

  • The physical and emotional transformation he has gone through to get to where he is today.
  • how physical weight can be a manifestation of your inner world.
  • why you must take responsibility for the story you tell in your head about yourself, others and life.
  • his experience being faced with the modern man’s dilemma
  • how to handle the pressures and expectations put on both men and women in our culture to do it all, be it all and have it all.
  • his insight on male body image
  • what makes a woman most attractive.
  • what it takes to have a healthy, harmonious, connected partnership
  • what makes a man want to commit to a woman.
  • the difference between being a strong, successful woman and having “independent women syndrome”.
  • why your language dictates your life.
  • what courageous communication is and why it matters
  • why being perfect is actually unattractive.
  • how readiness, divine timing, willingness and courage all play out in dating and love.
  • what men want most from women

Learn more about Josh at Wellness Force.

Check out the Wellness Force Podcast

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A few quotes to round out this topic from one of my favs from @createthelove. 

“Fall in love with yourself first.  When we’re whole we can see clearly the types of people who are in front of us as our vision is not clouded by loneliness and insecurity.  It makes everything else so much easier because then we search for people that compliment us, not complete us.” – Mark Groves.

“Great love doesn’t leave.  It stays.  It communicates.  It tried to understand.  Great love doesn’t walk away.  It walks towards.” – Mark Groves

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Why something you don’t want persists.

Consider this…

When there is something in your life that won’t go away, despite your greatest efforts, could it be that this thing is serving you in some way?

Of course this is not conscious.  This “thing” is something you are working hard at getting rid of.  I get it.  It sounds crazy to think there would be any part of you that could be benefitting from it.  Right?

What if there were messages in this “thing” that you weren’t able to see on your own?

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Continue reading “Why something you don’t want persists.”

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Can you accept your body and still want to lose weight?

The weight loss/health/body image world is often so black and white.  You either throw the diet rules out the window and go crazy eating what you want.  Or you deprive and restrict yourself in order to achieve a body you feel you can accept and love, in the future.

Have you noticed the all or nothing approach out there? Continue reading “Can you accept your body and still want to lose weight?”

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“The Weighting Game” (part 1)

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Take-away’s from the book, “Desserts is Stressed Spelled Backwards”.

I love this book on emotional eating and body image.  It is a deep dive into the real issues hiding behind emotional eating and the struggle with your body. I have pages and pages of amazing truths from this book. There are a small selection below.

  • You have the idea that if you change your appearance your problems will all go away. You blame every issue you have on not having a good enough body. Truth – your body is not the real problem.
  • Compulsive eating is a three-fold problem – physical, emotional, spiritual.
  • Key step is creating self-awareness. Which of my needs isn’t being met?
  • Self-sabotage – happens at the point at which you think major change in your life will occur and fear wins. You choose safety. Look at the consequences of reaching a goal or making a change in your life.  What fears and/or negative consequences come up?
  • Shifting from the self-punishment and self-criticism to self-acceptance and self-care is critical for finding peace.

Continue reading ““The Weighting Game” (part 1)”

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Breaking the Overeating Cycle

A food craving can be a pointer indicating there is something in your lives that needs attention. There are various emotional issues hiding beneath food cravings. Stress, fear, anger, insecurity, or frustration are a few of the possible causes. A craving may also be an attempt to fulfill an unmet need such as fun, comfort, and/or love.

Continue reading “Breaking the Overeating Cycle”

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Your Body is not the Problem.

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Often times we use our bodies as an excuse to not go for what we want.

Why is that?

Well, because what we want…our dreams, are scary.  It is risky to take action towards what our heart desires. The dream career.  The dream home.  True love.  It means change.  It means being vulnerable.  It means risking failure, rejection, and disappointment. That holds us back.  We use the weight as the reason we can’t take action.

Have you ever said or thought….”Once I lose this extra weight, I will …. ” or “If I had a better body, I would …”

What if your body wasn’t the real issue?  What if it was really your fears and beliefs about what could happen if you took action towards your dreams?  Could your body, or the weight, really just be an excuse, a distraction?