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How to embrace what is

When it comes to your reality, no matter what you are dealing with, you have a choice.

You can embrace what is, or resist what is.

A health issue. Your body.  Your bank account. A dysfunctional relationship.

Most of us choose to resist.  We ignore, fight, try harder, blame, frantically try to fix and change what is.  Resistance is hard.  It is tight, stressful, rigid and toxic. It is also comfortable and automatic.

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“The Weighting Game” (part 1)

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Take-away’s from the book, “Desserts is Stressed Spelled Backwards”.

I love this book on emotional eating and body image.  It is a deep dive into the real issues hiding behind emotional eating and the struggle with your body. I have pages and pages of amazing truths from this book. There are a small selection below.

  • You have the idea that if you change your appearance your problems will all go away. You blame every issue you have on not having a good enough body. Truth – your body is not the real problem.
  • Compulsive eating is a three-fold problem – physical, emotional, spiritual.
  • Key step is creating self-awareness. Which of my needs isn’t being met?
  • Self-sabotage – happens at the point at which you think major change in your life will occur and fear wins. You choose safety. Look at the consequences of reaching a goal or making a change in your life.  What fears and/or negative consequences come up?
  • Shifting from the self-punishment and self-criticism to self-acceptance and self-care is critical for finding peace.

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Breaking the Overeating Cycle

A food craving can be a pointer indicating there is something in your lives that needs attention. There are various emotional issues hiding beneath food cravings. Stress, fear, anger, insecurity, or frustration are a few of the possible causes. A craving may also be an attempt to fulfill an unmet need such as fun, comfort, and/or love.

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The Reason You Don’t Have What You Want.

Is there something in your life you are longing for? Something missing you wish you had?

Maybe it is more money, a loving relationship, your dream job….

It is so frustrating, right?

You try so hard yet you always fall short.  You keep living out this pattern that leaves you feeling disappointed…maybe hopeless.

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The Archetypes of Cravings (part 1)

Your food cravings are messages from your body letting you know something needs attention.  It may be giving you a clue about an unmet need.  You may be using certain foods to avoid or escape pain.  Food may be an attempt to manage emotional stress.

There are emotional significances to your cravings.  Perhaps you turn to food because…

  • you are missing support and connection from others.
  • you have a hard time making time for yourself.
  • you live a go-go-go, do-do-do lifestyle and feel overly stressed.

Read through the 4 craving archetypes below to further explore why you crave what you crave.

DAIRY: Millie The Mother Mother’s love is unconditional. She is nurturing, nourishing, and caring. She is the symbol of life-giving. A mother is devoted and protective of her children.

Emotional Significance of Dairy:

  • A craving for comfort.
  • A yearning for being nurtured.
  • Needing soothing.
  • Looking for safety and security.
  • To ease worry and anxiety.
  • Desire for life to be a little easier.

The Mother may crave dairy when they are in need of nurturing, compassion, and comfort. Mothers need nurturing as well.

BREAD/CARBS: Felicity The Friend and Companion A friend is loyal, supportive, and comforting. They offer encouragement, companionship, and   love. They nourish our lives. Friends add richness and a depth to our lives that one cannot achieve on their own.

Emotional Significance of Bread:

  • An attempt to soothe tension, stress, and/or anxiety.
  • Wanting to fill an inner emptiness.
  • Looking for calm and comfort; reassurance.
  • A desire to slow down.
  • Calming and relaxing.

One will attempt to fulfill a need for friendship and companionship with bread. A craving for bread may emerge when one is missing the encouragement, support, and assurance a friend would provide.

SWEETS: Donna The Dreamer – Dreamers live in a world of imagination, ideas, and concepts that are beyond the ordinary mind. They spend a great deal of time in their heads and imagination. Many dreamers are introverted and very independent.

Emotional Significance of Sweets:

  • A craving for sweetness in life.
  • A lack of joy in life.
  • A lack of self-care and “me” time.
  • Wanting a reward, seeking pleasure.
  • Unable to process sadness and grief.
  • Needing a boost of energy.
  • Don’t feel “sweet” enough.

Dreamers crave sweets when they think their dreams may not become a reality. They may have big dreams and wishes for what they want their lives to look like. They reach for sweets when they are missing the joy, pleasure, and sweetness that are only in their imaginations.

CRUNCHY: Charles The Critic A critic is a person who expresses an unfavorable opinion of something; a person who judges, evaluates, and/or criticizes.

Emotional Significance of Crunchy/Crispy:

  • An attempt to relieve anger, irritation, anxiety, and frustration.
  • Holding back something we want to express; resentment, anger, regret
  • A need to hide and avoid conflict.
  • Stress relief.
  • Impatience and/or dissatisfaction.
  • Criticism – of self, from others, and/or towards others.

The Critic goes for crunchy foods to relieve their frustration, anger, and anxiety.

Which craving archetype do you relate to?

I will cover 4 more in my next blog (chocolate, salty, fatty, spicy).  Stay Tuned!

 

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Strike a Power Pose

Your emotional state and your posture are mirrors of each other.

When you feel hopeless and discouraged, your head drops.  Your shoulders slump.  Your chest caves in.

When you feel annoyed and irritated, your teeth and fists may clench.  Your heart rate increases.  Your eyes sharpen and squint.

When you feel excited and confident, you hold your head high.  Your chest is open with your shoulders back and spine straight.

Your body language reflects how you are feeling emotionally.  The feeling is the cause.  Your posture is the effect… right?

What if the opposite could be true?  What if your posture could change your emotional state.

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Your Body is not the Problem.

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Often times we use our bodies as an excuse to not go for what we want.

Why is that?

Well, because what we want…our dreams, are scary.  It is risky to take action towards what our heart desires. The dream career.  The dream home.  True love.  It means change.  It means being vulnerable.  It means risking failure, rejection, and disappointment. That holds us back.  We use the weight as the reason we can’t take action.

Have you ever said or thought….”Once I lose this extra weight, I will …. ” or “If I had a better body, I would …”

What if your body wasn’t the real issue?  What if it was really your fears and beliefs about what could happen if you took action towards your dreams?  Could your body, or the weight, really just be an excuse, a distraction?